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What Has Been Lost?

What have you lost to COVID-19? This week, I have spent hours and hours helping people process their grief. Some have lost family members. Some, their health. Some have lost income and work. Some, graduation. Some have lost birthday gatherings. Some, weddings. Some, studies abroad. The grieving is real. I hear a lot of folks […]

Eyes Open, Intentions Set

How’s your mental health? Well that’s a tricky question. The term itself is one that begs for a road map, and we all have to become consciousness cartographers if we expect to arrive. When I’m working with clients, we begin with talking a preferred end-state. Who are you or who will you be when you […]

The Simple Truth Of It

You’ve known you’re different for a long time. You’ve been told you’re too intense or too sensitive over and over. When things don’t go well, you may find yourself taking more responsibility than others say is rational. When things do go well, you may find yourself crediting success to things outside of yourself and rushing […]

A Pretty Good Blog Post About Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a combination of experience, knowledge, analysis, and imagination. Coupled with fear and avoidance, it’s a vicious taskmaster, daring you to try and promising you’ll fail. Hypercritical, all-or-nothing, defensive, hypersensitive, EXHAUSTING. Coupled with hope and determination, it’s an inspirational coach, inviting you to be daring and see how close you can come. Perfectionism is […]

Burning Bright, Not Burning Out

That thing you love to do? The swing of the racket, or the turn of the phrase; The moment of ‘Aha!’ realization; An exhiliarating sprint; The balance of color under your brush; Engrossed and immersed in a state of flow/joy; The core of why you do the things you love to do. You felt those […]

The P Word

Your gifted adolescent is astounding. She learns things so easily. She picks up new skills with ease. She has empathy, compassion, and insight well beyond her years. You think she spends too much time Snapchatting, YouTubing, and laying about. You see that she could be making straight A’s, sitting first chair in band, connecting with […]

Letter To The Parents Of That Teenager

Minerva and Keanu, It was great to hear y’all talk yesterday about your fascination with the changes you’ve made. Sherm has managed to surprise you with his initiative, and the resulting lighter household mood has created all sorts of opportunities: relaxed conversations with your other kids, pleasure reading, and consistently increasing moments where you realize […]

My Letter To Your Teenager

Sherm, I’m looking forward to our appointment on Friday. It’s been great seeing you relax, explore your inner world, brainstorm about possible futures, and take the pressure off of yourself to be perfect. Here’s hoping you got enough sleep last night, because I know you have a lot on your plate today. Your little brother […]